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Owesilisa (38) uphakathi kokusiza unina ogulayo nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa umkakhe
Owesilisa oneminyaka engu-38 ubudala uveze ukuthi ubhekene nesimo esinzima empilweni yakhe yomshado, lapho ephoqeleka khona ukukhetha phakathi kokusiza unina ogulayo noma ukugcina umshado wakhe.
Ngokusho kwakhe, washada nowesifazane amthanda kakhulu njengoba sebeneminyaka emihlanu bethandana. Uchaze ukuthi ngesikhathi besaqala besathandana, umkakhe wayenobudlelwano obuhle nomndeni wakhe, kwaze kwaba ukuthi unina umkhuthaza ukuthi ashade naye ngokushesha.
Kodwa izinto zaguquka inyanga eyodwa nje emva komshado. Umkakhe akasafuni nhlobo amalungu omndeni wakhe avakashele ekhaya, kanti ngakolunye uhlangothi, udadewabo womkakhe uhlala nabo, futhi nguyena okhokhela izifundo zakhe. Unina womkakhe naye uvame ukubavakashela njalo, kwesinye isikhathi ahlale amasonto amabili.
Inkinga enkulu ivele ngesikhathi owesilisa enika unina u-R1 000 wokuthenga imithi. Lokho kudale ingxabano enkulu, kwaze kwaba umkakhe uyahamba ubuyela kubo, esabisa ngesehlukaniso. Owesilisa uthi wagcina exolisa ukuze ambuyise.
Lomlisa, osebenza njengonjiniyela (civil engineer), uthi ihola phakathi kuka-R28 000 no-R35 000 ngenyanga, futhi umkakhe uyayazi imali ayiholayo ngenxa yokuthi bane-akhawunti ehlanganyelwayo.
Njengamanje, unina usesimweni esibucayi esibhedlela sikahulumeni, futhi kudingeka ukuhlinzwa ngokushesha. Odokotela batusa ukuthi kucatshangelwe isibhedlela esizimele ngenxa yobude bolayini wokulinda.
Owesilisa uthi ufuna ukusiza unina ngemali asanda kuyithola, kodwa wesaba ukuthi umkakhe angase amshiye uma enza lokho.
Uveze ukuthi uthanda kakhulu umkakhe futhi wesaba ukuphila ngaphandle kwakhe, kodwa futhi uthi ngeke akwazi ukuzixolela uma unina eshona ngenxa yokuthi akamsizanga ngesikhathi asidingayo.
Ngokwemibiko, umkakhe uphinde aphakamise ukuthi odadewabo bendoda kufanele babe yibo abasiza unina, yize nabo bebhekene nezinkinga zezimali emishadweni yabo.
Lo mlisa uthi uzizwa ephakathi nendawo futhi akzi ukuthi yisiphi isinqumo esifanele, njengoba ebhekene nokukhetha phakathi komthwalo womndeni kanye nothando lomshado.